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What I Learned This Summer

by Lois Flowers September 4, 2018
by Lois Flowers

The transition from summer to fall seems to take an awfully long time around here. The kids go back to school in mid August, which totally makes it seem like the new season is upon us. But then the thermometer keeps climbing back up over 90 with a frustrating degree of regularity, which makes it seem like summer is never going to end.

(Can you guess which one of the four seasons is not my favorite?)

Even though it officially won’t be fall for another couple of weeks, it is time for my quarterly list of seasonal learnings. So here we go:

• Sometimes, you just have to pack up and go to Iowa. (Or wherever it is that refreshes your spirit and rejuvenates your soul.)

As I shared here and here, before, the girls and I have been trekking north to visit my college roommate Rachel and her family every summer for several years. This year, Lilly’s first real job promised to keep her very busy and I wasn’t sure if our annual trip to the farm was going to happen.

Rachel understood when I emailed her about this disappointing possibility, but she also added this: “I know you personally need the rest and relaxation of Iowa, so I hope we can get it on the schedule.”

Even so, as the summer wore on, I pretty much resigned myself to not going. Then, happily, a hole opened in our calendar that looked a lot like Iowa.

We spent the early part of August in the Hawkeye State, first among the cornfields at Rachel’s farm and then at my younger sister’s historic home about an hour from Des Moines.

Turns out, Rachel was right. I did need the rest and relaxation of Iowa, much more than I previously realized.

• Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.

Due to the extreme heat and lack of rain we experienced in June and July, my flowerbeds have really struggled this summer. Perennials that normally grow so much they have to be cut back at least once or twice have sort of just languished, and some have even died out completely.

I walk around the perimeter of my yard and can’t help but feel a bit discouraged. Where I would normally see bushy plants, I see stunted growth. Where there would normally be plants overlapping and growing into each other, I see a lot more mulch-covered ground.

And yet, when I share my feelings with Randy, his answer surprises me.

“Your gardens have never looked better,” he says.

And though I can’t see it, I know he means it.

• If your word for the year is bold, there’s really no way you can justify buying boring frames when you get your first pair of bifocals.

I know—I packed a whole lot of information into that sentence. I’ll let you sort it all out, read between the lines, whatever you want. I will post a picture, though. Not everyone goes for bling on their eyewear, but I think my new frames are pretty awesome.

• Hummingbirds are nature’s tiny joy machines.

We have a feeder on our back deck, right where we can see it from our dining room table. When we first put it out—following the first hummingbird sighting we’ve had in several years—we couldn’t wait for our first little visitor to appear.

It’s been several weeks, and the fascination still hasn’t worn off. Whenever one of us catches a glimpse of fluttering wings in our peripheral vision, conversation around the table stops for a minute and we just sit there and watch nature unfold.

• When people inspire us, we need to tell them.

Last week, Lilly ran her first cross-country race. It was hot and she was nervous. But she finished strong and improved her time over her earlier runs.

I was proud of her because I’m her mom and I’ve always loved to watch her run, but also because running two miles in front of an audience is not something I could ever do.

The next morning on the treadmill, I got to the point where I just wanted to quit. I had been sick earlier in the week and missed a few days of exercise, which always sets me back.

But every time I thought about stopping before my time goal, I thought of Lilly running her race. If she can run for two miles, surely I can run for two more minutes, I instructed myself.

So I kept going. Afterwards, I told her. “You inspired me to keep going, even though I really wanted to stop,” I said.

Seeing her face light up when she heard my words made me realize yet again the power of encouragement. It really is a gift that never stops giving.

There’s my list. Now what did you learn this summer?

♥ Lois

When people inspire us, we need to tell them. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with Emily Freeman, Let’s Have Coffee, Purposeful Faith, #TellHisStory, Faith on Fire, Faith ‘n Friends and Grace & Truth.

September 4, 2018 14 comments
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What I Love

by Lois Flowers August 28, 2018
by Lois Flowers

Last week, my blogger friend Linda took the concept of a birthday list to a whole new level.

Instead of sharing a collection of items she would love to receive from her family and friends when she turned 63, she perused her blog archives and came up with, as she described them, “63 random quotes from the past five years”—all of which contain the words “love” or “I love …” in some form or fashion.

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August 28, 2018 30 comments
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An Unexpected Midlife Identity Crisis

by Lois Flowers August 21, 2018
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It was my daughter Molly’s favorite joke when she was small.

“Knock, knock,” she’d say.

“Who’s there?” we’d answer.

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August 21, 2018 18 comments
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When You’re Not “On Fire” for Jesus

by Lois Flowers August 14, 2018
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The imagery is in our songs and catch phrases, this idea of being “on fire” for God. I don’t know when it first became popular in Christian circles—maybe during the Jesus Movement of the 1970s, maybe some other time.

Intertwining fire with faith not a new idea, of course. The disciples on the road to Emmaus said they felt their “hearts burning” as Jesus explained the scriptures to them (Luke 24:32). When the Holy Spirit came at Pentecost, tongues of fire rested on the disciples (Acts 2:2-4).

The Bible also speaks often of the “refiner’s fire”—the work of God that tests and shapes our faith and character. And God Himself is described as “a consuming fire” in Hebrews 12:29.

Even so, none of these have to do with that passionate, “on-fire” feeling frequently associated with youth camps and mountaintop experiences. I’m not denying such feelings exist—they’re real, valid and sometimes life-changing. But because they’re not necessarily sustainable, not having them can often be a source of guilt.

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August 14, 2018 22 comments
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Summer Rest Stops

by Lois Flowers July 24, 2018
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We’ve had a bit of a break this past week, but overall, it’s been unseasonably hot and dry around here this summer. This is typical Kansas weather for July and early August. But when the temperatures soar, the grass goes dormant and the rain clouds disappear in June, it can be downright discouraging.

That’s why an unexpected rainstorm that blew in a couple weekends ago was such a relief, physically and emotionally. You don’t realize how parched you are from the oppressive heat and lack of moisture in the air until the heavens open and dump out an inch of rain on a Saturday afternoon.

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July 24, 2018 18 comments
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When God says, “Leave Everything to Me”

by Lois Flowers July 17, 2018
by Lois Flowers

A few months ago, my laptop was updating and taking its own sweet time about it. I don’t normally pay much attention to these regular Microsoft installations, but I happened to be looking at the screen when the following message popped up: “Leave everything to us. Don’t turn off your PC.”

By this time, I was starting to wonder why the update was dragging on so long, so my first thought when I saw the message was, “Uh, that’s not very reassuring at all.” (Then I took a picture, because I somehow had a feeling this wasn’t going to go exactly according to plan.)

Turns out, my hunch was correct. When the update finished, the entire desktop was gone and the laptop was stuck in some kind of Groundhog-Day cycle that brought up the same troubleshooting screen no matter what option we selected.

Naturally, this is not what I expect when Microsoft tells me it’s installing updates that will make my computer run more smoothly. The company said it would take care of everything; instead, a documented problem with the update caused a massive headache at my house for a few days.

Randy finally spoke to a Microsoft technician who was familiar with the issue. But his only solution—to start from scratch and reinstall Windows—would have caused us to lose everything we’d saved since our last backup in January.

We obviously didn’t like that option, so my resourceful husband dredged up his high school computer knowledge and used DOS commands to save all the files from the laptop onto a handful of thumb drives.

Bullet dodged, problem solved, lesson learned. (We’re backing up more frequently from now on, for sure.)

Weeks later, I’m still amused by the irony of the mid-update message from Microsoft. Oddly enough, it also reminds me of promises in the Bible that encourage us to rely on God instead of ourselves.

• “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

• “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will act.” (Psalm 37:5)

• “Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

• “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you.” (Psalm 55:22a)

God’s promises are sort of similar to Microsoft’s, but there’s one big difference. When one of the world’s most trusted names in technology says “Leave everything to us” in the middle of an update, I have every reason to expect that my computer will work when the installation is complete.

That doesn’t always happen, of course. Microsoft is a powerful corporation, but it’s made up of finite, fallible human beings. The company sometimes makes mistakes that it’s unable to fix.

God, on the other hand, is all-powerful, perfect and infinitely trustworthy. But when He says, “Leave everything to me,” He gives us no guarantee that we’ll get the result we want. While it’s true that He often answers our prayers in amazing, remarkable ways, we’re not buying a specific, certain outcome from Him when we choose to trust Him.

Situations don’t always turn out like we hope, or wish, or might even reasonably expect. Sometimes news is bad, the answer is no, or approval is withheld. Sometimes hearts don’t change, the way gets longer, the pain gets worse.

Things can get especially sticky when we are working through situations and problems that are at least partly out of our control. It’s stressful when we lack all the information. It’s frustrating when we have to rely on other people who may not have our best interests at heart, people who do things differently than we do, or even those who may not know what they are doing at all.

I’ve found myself here lately, with issues more serious than a malfunctioning laptop. Maybe you have too.

Randy was able to fix our computer without any help from Microsoft. But life doesn’t always imitate technology, does it? It’s hard to know when to act and when to wait. It can be tough to see that line between trusting God and taking things into our own hands.

Worry hovers, anxiety threatens, irritability rises.

In such cases, trusting Him is our only viable choice, one that must be made daily, hourly—perhaps even moment by moment. In the middle of a phone call or in the middle of the night. When work piles up around us or all we have left to do is wait.

So we pray—for wisdom, for patience, for discernment to see what’s really in front of us.

“Lord, be gracious to us! We wait for You. Be our strength every morning, and our salvation in time of trouble.” (Isaiah 33:2)

And we actively, intentionally and perhaps even verbally decide again to trust Him—not to perform a certain way or work everything out exactly how we prefer, but to be our strength and our salvation, our help and our refuge, our advocate and our hope.

When God says, “Leave everything to me,” and we choose to obey—over and over again, confidently or with fear and trepidation—the promised result is far more precious than any desired outcome.

“You will keep in perfect peace the mind that is dependent on You, for it is trusting in You.” (Isaiah 26:3)

♥ Lois

God often answers our prayers in amazing, remarkable ways, but we’re not buying a specific, certain outcome from Him when we choose to trust Him. Share on X When God says, “Leave everything to me,” and we choose to obey, the promised result is far more precious than any desired outcome. Share on X

 

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