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A Gardening Analogy that Will Calm Your Heart Today

by Lois Flowers September 1, 2026
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Inside: Have you ever lived through a pruning season and wondered why it happened? I have, and here’s what it’s teaching me about God’s work in our lives. ~

A few weeks ago, I decided it was time to prune the impatiens that were overflowing the strawberry planter on my front porch.

It always pains me a bit to cut back lush foliage and lovely flowers anywhere in my yard. But these impatiens were starting to get in the way of the front door, and they desperately needed the haircut I gave them.

I’ve thought about pruning a lot this summer, the kind that occurs in my flowerbeds as well as in our lives. On a spiritual level, Jesus’s words in John 15:1-2 come to mind:

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. Every branch in me that does not produce fruit he removes, and he prunes every branch that produces fruit so that it will produce more fruit.”

Struggling to Understand

After my bike accident last year, I often felt like I had gone through a hard pruning. Through many months of recovery, it seemed as if significant parts of my life had been cut way back, and I struggled to understand why.

I still don’t have many answers, but my recent ponderings about pruning have settled my heart about this.

For starters, it occurred to me that plants don’t choose when they are pruned, or why. That’s up to the gardener to decide.

Why Pruning Happens

Pruning is necessary to remove dead wood, of course, but that’s not the only reason for it. Sometimes, plants—like the impatiens on my porch—simply grow too big and need to be trimmed back to fit their allotted space.

Pruning also is used to reshape plants or shrubs, as well as to make room for something else. For example, Randy recently rebuilt the gate to our backyard. When he took down the adjoining fence, I had to cut back a clematis growing on an attached trellis because it was right where he was working.

In any of these cases, the pruning can be severe. When done correctly, however, the plants are usually fuller and healthier when they grow back.

Spiritual Application

I’m an amateur gardener, at best. Even with help from YouTube, I don’t always know the best way to do this kind of task. I hope for the best and gain more confidence each time I wield my pruners.

God, on the other hand, is our sovereign Master Gardener. When He prunes His children—the branches abiding in the true Vine, according to John 15—He absolutely knows what the end result will be. Whether He is removing dead wood or pruning to produce more fruit, His purposes will be fulfilled.

In a spiritual sense, we might think of pruning as punishment. But lately, what I’ve come to understand more deeply is this: I’m not punishing my plants when I prune them; I’m helping them. I’m giving them a chance to thrive.

Divine Pruning

The same is true for God’s pruning work in our lives, whatever it looks like. It could be a form of discipline, lovingly carried out by a heavenly Father who knows what we need—or don’t need, as the case may be—to thrive. But the cutting back also could be necessary to prepare us for some future work assignment, ministry or relationship we can’t even imagine right now.

The truth is, we might not understand why pruning happens to us. It could be painful for a time—perhaps a very long time. And we don’t always know how everything will turn out.

But again, God knows.

And as Philippians 1:6 promises, when He begins a good work in us, He will “carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Let’s both remember that truth next time we feel the pressure of the divine pruning shears in our lives and hearts.

♥ Lois

I’m not punishing my plants when I prune them; I’m helping them. I’m giving them a chance to thrive. Share on X Whether God is removing dead wood from our lives or pruning us to produce more fruit, His purposes will be fulfilled. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with InstaEncouragements and Let’s Have Coffee.

September 1, 2026 1 comment
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One Helpful Antidote to Worry

by Lois Flowers August 25, 2026
by Lois Flowers

Inside: When my little girl’s bad dream gave me a wake-up call about worry. ~

One night many years ago, I woke up suddenly to find my daughter Molly’s little face peering at me from just beyond the mattress. She’d had a bad dream and needed some comfort.

In her dream, her bike was across the street by the neighbor’s house. Randy was working in the garage, presumably with the door wide open, and she had gone somewhere with me and older sister Lilly.

I was confused, and not only because I had just been roused from a deep sleep. What on earth was so scary about the scene she had just described?

Her Alarming Answer

“What if someone steals the bike?” she whispered in my ear.

Oh.

The “scary” part of her dream was her fear that someone might steal her bike, even though that was highly unlikely.

Suddenly, I was wide awake.

I worried a lot as a child and young adult. It was so bad that my childhood nickname, compliments of my five older siblings, was “Worry Busby.”

Ironically, or perhaps not, freedom from that stranglehold came as I prayed for God’s will, not mine, to be done when Randy and I were dealing with infertility. As it turned out, God’s will for our family included the miracle of two adoptions, and, for me, of being released from my lifelong struggle with worry.

My Wake-Up Call

Even at the ripe old age of 9, Molly was a planner. She always thought ahead and liked to have contingencies for every situation.

But that night, planning hadn’t invaded her dreams; worry had. And her appearance in my room that night was a wake-up call, in more ways than one.

As I recall, it happened during a stressful season when I had slipped back into my old habit and was agonizing about an insurance issue that was beyond my control.

I can’t prove that my daughter was troubled about possibly losing her bike in her dream because I was worrying about insurance. Given my history, though, the timing hardly seemed coincidental. Kids pick up vibes from their parents, and the ones emanating from me during that time were especially anxious.

Hence, the wakeup call.

When Worries Loom

As much as I am able, as long as I live, I must be vigilant about not passing on to my children something that had been so debilitating in my own life. Even now that my daughters are both young adults—or perhaps especially because they are.

Time and again, I return to the petition that helps me whenever fear starts creeping in. “Not my will, but yours be done.” I pray.

Over and over, I repeat the words Jesus uttered in the garden just before his crucifixion until the worry flees and God’s peace floods my soul once again.

That night all those years ago, I took my daughter back to bed armed with hugs and the assurance that Daddy would never let anyone take her bike right out from under his nose. And I returned to sleep myself, eternally grateful that my own heavenly Father “has not given [me] a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7)

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What are some practical or helpful ways that you have found to battle worry or fear during any season of your life? Please share in the comments.

♥ Lois

As much as I am able, as long as I live, I must be vigilant about not passing on to my children something that had been so debilitating in my own life. Share on X Time and again, I return to the petition that helps me whenever fear starts creeping in. “Not my will, but yours be done.” I pray. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with InstaEncouragements and Let’s Have Coffee.

August 25, 2026 11 comments
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How to pray for a loved one’s doctor appointments

by Lois Flowers August 11, 2026
by Lois Flowers

Inside: It’s sometimes hard to know what to say when we’re praying for friends or relatives who are dealing with medical issues. These suggestions might help. ~

After my bike accident last year, my right eye stopped watering. It wasn’t completely dry, so I could still wear my contacts. But when I would normally cry, no tears flowed down that side of my face.

Thinking there might be an underlying medical issue related to the head injuries I had suffered, I decided to visit an ophthalmologist rather than my regular optometrist.

The numerous physicians I saw during that season of recovery demonstrated varying levels of bedside manner, but this guy was the absolute worst. He took a quick look at my eye, said he saw tears and informed me that nothing was wrong.

Even as I tried to explain more, he was heading for the door with his phone in his hand.

I later learned that humans have three kinds of tears—emotional tears, which my right eye stopped producing for many months after the accident; reflex tears that wash away irritants; and basal tears, which keep our eyes lubricated. (Fortunately for me, the latter were not affected by my injuries.)

Learning from Experience

In terms of my overall recovery, my lack of tears was a minor issue. But that unpleasant encounter with the ophthalmologist got me thinking about what makes good medical care—and what detracts from it.

Over the last several months, I’ve had friends waiting to see specialists, loved ones navigating complex health issues, and friends with relatives going through medical crises. God knows what they need, and we can trust that He will provide it. That said, my recent experiences with doctors—what was helpful or frustrating, what I appreciated, what I wished would have happened—are guiding my thoughts as I pray for these people.

Asking God to “be with so-and-so during this time” is a good start, but sometimes, I like to be more specific. Every situation is different, of course. Praying for someone with an angry sore throat isn’t the same as praying for a cancer patient or a person with an undiagnosed problem.

As I think about friends and loved ones dealing with medical issues, though, I pray that their doctors will exhibit certain traits or qualities during upcoming appointments. If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to pray for someone facing a health issue, I hope the following list helps you too.

5 Helpful Traits

• Competence. We’d like to think this is a given for all medical professionals, but in reality, some physicians are more competent than others. This includes a willingness to admit when a different doctor would be helpful.

• Compassion. If we had to choose between a competent doctor and a compassionate one, most of us would probably choose the former. That said, a kind bedside manner can make a huge difference to a patient and his or her family, particularly during tense or uncertain situations.

• Curiosity. When my loved ones are dealing with a complicated medical problems, I want their doctors to be curious and willing to think outside the box about what might be wrong.

• Creativity. Once a problem is diagnosed, I pray for creativity to determine a solution, whether it’s a tried-and-true treatment or something more innovative.

• Clarity. This is helpful when it comes to understanding the problem and how to correct it, as well as in explaining the diagnosis and treatment to the patient and his or her family.

Your Turn

How do you pray about medical appointments—for your loved ones or for yourself? What would you add to my list? Please share in the comments.

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No Post Here Next Week

Next week, I’ll send out my subscriber-only, email newsletter, Courage, Dear Heart, which replaces my third blog post of each month. If you haven’t signed up for the newsletter yet, I’d love for you to do so here:

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As my way of saying thanks, you’ll receive a free copy of my 7-day devotional, Faith, Fear, and the God Who Goes Before Us.

If you fill out the subscription form and don’t receive anything in your inbox, check your junk or spam folder for the confirmation email. And be sure to add the newsletter’s email address to your safe list so you don’t miss anything else.

♥ Lois

As I think about friends and loved ones dealing with medical issues, I pray that their doctors will exhibit five specific traits during upcoming appointments. Share on X When my loved ones are dealing with a complicated medical problems, I want their doctors to be curious and willing to think outside the box about what might be wrong. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with InstaEncouragements and Let’s Have Coffee.

August 11, 2026 22 comments
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The Easiest Way to Say “I See You”

by Lois Flowers August 4, 2026
by Lois Flowers

Inside: My daughter taught me how to notice people when she was little, and the lesson still applies to all of us today. ~

Have you ever been going about your day, minding your own business, when a friend or coworker asks if you’re feeling well or comments about how tired you look?

I don’t know about you, but when that happens to me, my reaction is instantaneous. I may have left the house that morning looking my best and feeling fabulous, but all of a sudden, I feel haggard, worn out and possibly in need of antibiotics (or at least a nice long nap).

It’s rather alarming what a few short words—even those spoken out of true concern—can do to rattle my confidence and deflate my emotions.

But it’s also amazing how a few very different words can have the opposite effect.

Case in Point

When my daughter Lilly was small, I saw this happen over and over as I watched her interact with strangers in public places. It didn’t matter whether we were standing in line at Fazoli’s, waiting at the customer service desk at Kohl’s or milling around the lobby at church. She’d spot a girl or woman nearby, make eye contact and then speak with the poise of a much-older kid.

“I like your shirt,” she’d say in her sweet little voice.

Or, “I like your purse.”

“I like your tattoo.”

“I like your hair.”

It made no difference how old the person was, whether her hair was blond, black or blue, what size she wore or whether her clothes were skimpy, ripped or outdated. Lilly always found something nice to say.

A Simple Ministry

My daughter loved people and found compliments to be great conversation starters. At times, though, this introverted mama wondered whether I should rein her in a bit. Maybe people didn’t want to be bothered as they waited in line.

But as I observed her in action, I began to notice something.

Lilly would share her compliment, and inevitably, here’s what happened next. The girl or woman would turn to her friend and say something like, “Aw, did you hear that? That just made my day.”

Time and again, her sincere words touched the hearts of the people to whom she offered them. It was ministry in its simplest form.

And as I watched my little girl identify lovely things about the people around her and care enough to let them know, I started following her example.

Paying Attention

While greeting at the church door on Sunday mornings, pushing my cart through the aisles at Wal-Mart or checking in for volunteer work at our elementary school, I started to pay closer attention to the people who passed by and then comment on what I saw.

“That’s a really good color on you.”

“What a beautiful scarf!”

“I love your necklace.”

I know. A compliment from a middle-aged mom doesn’t have quite the same effect as one from a five-year-old girl with dimples and shiny black ponytails. But I know how much it means to me to hear such words, so I kept offering them.

You don’t have to say something spiritual, talk for 15 minutes, share a Bible verse or pray for someone in order to encourage her.

People like to be noticed. They like to know that someone else really sees them.

And, as I learned from Lilly, it’s easy enough to tell them.

♥ Lois

You don’t have to say something spiritual, talk for 15 minutes, share a Bible verse or pray for someone in order to encourage her. Share on X People like to be noticed. They like to know that someone else really sees them. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with InstaEncouragements and Let’s Have Coffee.

August 4, 2026 18 comments
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A Simple Lesson from My Gardening Failure Also Applies to Life

by Lois Flowers July 28, 2026
by Lois Flowers

Inside: Growth requires the right food. And not just for my favorite red impatiens. ~

I love container gardens featuring the tried-and-true “thriller, filler, spiller” design, but year after year, I find myself filling most—if not all—my flowerpots and planters with red impatiens.

I am a creature of habit, and red is my favorite color. More than that, though, I just like how these annuals look.

In the strawberry planter on my porch. In the cracked concrete birdbath that I turned into a flower pot. In the rock with a hollow just big enough for one starter plant from a cell pack. And in what I call my “step planter” on the side of my house, which used to be the back step out to our patio.

In the past, I could go to the local hardware store and get a flat of 50 red impatiens each spring. The store stopped selling my favorite annuals in this format a few years ago, so now I embark on the hunt for red impatiens in early May.

This year, after coming up short at three stores, I finally found healthy looking eight-packs at Home Depot. I planted them in all my favorite containers and started watering regularly.

After a few weeks, I noticed that the impatiens on my porch and backyard pots were growing well, but the ones in the step planter along the side of my house were not.

What Went Wrong?

I couldn’t figure it out. The plants all came from the same place. They were all getting the same amount of water and were growing in the proper amount of shade. So what was wrong? Why were some thriving and other struggling?

One day, the answer finally occurred to me. I had used fresh potting soil in the pots, but I had just dug out the old roots and added a small bit of new soil to the step planter.

The old soil looked fine. Despite years of experience that cautioned me otherwise, I thought it would be OK.

It wasn’t.

By then, it was too late to buy more impatiens and start over with fresh soil. Instead, I bought some Miracle-Gro fertilizer and began using it on the puny annuals in the step planter. A few weeks later, they were thriving too.

Turns out, growth requires the right food.

Not just for impatiens, of course. This principle applies to so many situations and conditions, it’s hard to know where to start.

Life Application

I don’t think there’s a supplement for everything. But sometimes, our lack of energy or endurance has an obvious (and maybe even simple) solution.

More sleep and less sugar or caffeine. Apples and avocados instead of chips and Coke. An evening walk instead of 30 extra minutes of scrolling.

If the malaise is more spiritual or emotional, the antidote could include a few moments of prayer. A chapter or two of scripture. A face-to-face conversation with a loved one. Reading a good book instead of the aforementioned scrolling.

I’m not trying to minimize or over spiritualize or toss out pat answers. We often face complex problems that require patience, outside help, wisdom from above or perhaps all of the above.

But sometimes, as I discovered with my impatiens, different soil really does produce different results.

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Have you ever gotten disappointing results only to realize you had overlooked or forgotten a simple step or remedy? Please share in the comments.

♥ Lois

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P.S. I’m linking up this week with InstaEncouragements and Let’s Have Coffee.

July 28, 2026 16 comments
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2 Quick Prayers to Lift Your Soul this Summer

by Lois Flowers July 14, 2026
by Lois Flowers

Inside: These short petitions help us refocus when our strength falters or our hearts veer in anxious directions. ~

I don’t know about you, but my prayer life often benefits from petitions that originate with someone besides me.

This summer, two such prayers are helping to reorient me when my strength falters, my faith wavers or my heart veers in an anxious direction. They’re not complicated, but they are full of solid theological truth.

Daily Assistance

I came across the first one when I was reading through the book of Isaiah several months ago.

“O Lord, be gracious to us; we wait for you. Be our arm every morning, our salvation in the time of trouble.” (Isaiah 33:2)

As I offer up these words early in the morning, they affirm God’s kindness and consistent presence in my life. They also remind me not to be surprised when trouble comes and point me back to the true Source of my strength and salvation.

Peace of Soul

My blogger friend Michele Morin recently quoted the second petition in her Substack newsletter. I have since learned that these powerful words are part of a 19th-century Eastern Orthodox prayer known as the Morning Prayer of Metropolitan Philaret:

“Teach me to treat all that comes to me this day with peace of soul and with the firm conviction that your will governs all.”

Peace of soul, not fretful thoughts. God’s will, not mine.

Over and over again, this prayer settles my heart and refocuses my attitude. I hope it does the same for you today.

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No Post Here Next Week

Next week, I’ll send out my subscriber-only, email newsletter, Courage, Dear Heart, which replaces my third blog post of each month. If you haven’t signed up for the newsletter yet, I’d love for you to do so here:

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As my way of saying thanks, you’ll receive a free copy of my 7-day devotional, Faith, Fear, and the God Who Goes Before Us.

If you fill out the subscription form and don’t receive anything in your inbox, check your junk or spam folder for the confirmation email. And be sure to add the newsletter’s email address to your safe list so you don’t miss anything else.

♥ Lois

O Lord, be gracious to us; we wait for you. Be our arm every morning, our salvation in the time of trouble. (Isaiah 33:2) Share on X Peace of soul, not fretful thoughts. God’s will, not mine. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with Senior Salon Pitstop, InstaEncouragements and Let’s Have Coffee.

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