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Something New for You

by Lois Flowers September 9, 2025
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Inside: Are you hungry for more connection and encouragement in your life? I’m starting a subscriber-only email newsletter, and I would love for you to sign up (and receive a free gift in the process). ~

When I was growing up, I had to walk home from school every day.

It wasn’t far—a third of a mile or so. I often did this alone and never enjoyed it much.

On Wednesdays, though, my Catholic friends went to a weekly class at their church after school, and since the church was just across the bridge and down the street from my house, I got to walk with them partway.

Here’s what I remember most about this experience: The walk is better together.

Walking through Life

It’s the same with life, isn’t it? Seasons and struggles—and seasons of struggle—are always better when someone is there with you. You laugh, you talk, you cry, you get distracted by whatever might come into your view.

Not only does time go faster when you’re with someone, but you might enjoy it more. Or, if it’s a hard season, it’s a bit more bearable.

I think this applies to any season of life, really. Young adulthood. Infertility. Parenting children of any age. Infertility. Menopause. Helping (and then losing) elderly parents. Widowhood. Chronic or terminal illness.

IRL and Online

Life is better together, whether it’s in person or through some kind of online community. For example, the interactions I’ve enjoyed here on this blog have enriched my life in all sorts of ways.

Many of you have been here for years, some since the very first post. You’ve read along as I’ve shared observations and lessons from life as a girl mom, a helper of aging parents, a grieving daughter, a middle-aged woman, an almost empty nester.

My goal in writing has always been to encourage others who may find themselves in a similar spot, either right then or at some point in the future. And along the way, you have greatly encouraged me.

Next Step

As I’ve mentioned a time or two, I’ve written a manuscript about parent loss that I would love to see in print someday. These days, publishers want authors to show they have a growing base of dedicated readers who might buy their books when they are released.

One way to accomplish this is to offer an email newsletter that folks can sign up for (thus creating that ready-made list of potential book buyers publishers are looking for). The tricky part—besides attracting subscribers—is coming up with some kind of unique content that keeps readers on the email list once they subscribe.

There is, of course, an endless supply of articles and courses and expert opinions about the best ways to start and grow an email newsletter. That’s partly why it’s taken me so long to start one—paralysis by analysis is real, friends.

My Mission

As I considered what I might offer readers in such an email newsletter, though, I kept coming back to the mission of this blog, as spelled out on the home page of my website:

As long as we’re here on planet Earth, God has a good purpose for us. This is true no matter how old we are what we feel on any given day or what we imagine anyone else thinks about us. It can be a struggle, though, to believe this and live like it. … And so I write, one pilgrim to another, in an effort to encourage us both as we navigate the long walk home together.

Marketing—which, let’s face it, is the underlying purpose of many email newsletters—is not my forte. But connection and encouragement on the long walk home? As my dad would say, I can get on board with that.

To that end, I am starting a monthly email newsletter called Courage, Dear Heart, and I would love for you—the wonderful readers of this blog—to subscribe.

The Details

Narnia fans will recognize the title as something the lion Aslan says to Lucy when she’s trapped on a dark island in The Voyage of the Dawn Treader. But I also think it’s a fitting message for all of us as we navigate the twists and turns of life in this often-chaotic world.

Courage, Dear Heart will come out on the third Tuesday of each month. It will feature an encouraging note from me (like what you normally read here but shorter), along with an occasional quote, family or writing update and meaningful link or two.

Unlike my regular blog posts, which anyone can access on the internet, the newsletter will be subscriber only. I may post the content elsewhere later, but you will see it first in the newsletter.

Even if you already receive my blog posts via email, I would greatly appreciate it if you signed up for Courage, Dear Heart too. The newsletter will replace my regular post for the third week of each month, so you won’t be receiving any additional email and you won’t miss anything either.

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Free Gift for You

And now for the part I’m really excited about: To thank you for subscribing, you will receive a free, seven-day devotional called Faith, Fear, and the God Who Goes Before Us. This deep dive into my favorite Bible verse (Deuteronomy 31:8) is downloadable and printable, and it will arrive in your inbox once you sign up.

Now that my parents are gone, I don’t return to my hometown very often. It’s grown and changed, as small towns often do. The bridge by my childhood home was torn down long ago, and the Catholic church is now a trendy event space.

I’ve also changed a lot over the years, but when it comes to life, I still have the same desire for walking companions that I did when I was a kid. I’m guessing you do too, and I’m so glad we’re on this journey together.

• • •

If you have any questions or thoughts about what you would like to see in Courage, Dear Heart, feel free to contact me here or leave a comment below.

♥ Lois

Seasons and struggles—and seasons of struggle—are always better when someone is there with you. Share on X Life is better together, whether it’s in person or through some kind of online community. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Let’s Have Coffee and Grace & Truth.

September 9, 2025 18 comments
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Hope for the Second Half of Life

by Lois Flowers September 2, 2025
by Lois Flowers

Inside: Even when giants threaten and challenges seem daunting, this biblical example demonstrates that it is possible to remain faithful to God as we get older.~

If you’re familiar with Old Testament history, you may recall that Caleb was one of 12 men sent by Moses to scout out the Promised Land a few years after the Israelites left Egypt.

Their job was to get the lay of the land, not to decide if the people were capable of conquering it. But when the group returned, the majority’s report focused on the giants in the land—how fearsome they were and how Israel didn’t stand a chance against them.

This, of course, was a lie. God never intended for the Israelites to accomplish anything on their own. But only two spies—Caleb and Joshua, who became Moses’ successor—believed the truth about the situation.

As a Result …

Those two were the only men out of an entire generation whom God allowed to enter the Promised Land.

While the rest of his peers were complaining, wandering around and eventually dying off during four decades in the wilderness, Caleb was thriving. Forty-five years later, he was still as strong and vigorous—physically and spiritually—as he had been during that ill-fated spying mission.

Here’s how he described his experience:

“I was forty years old when Moses the servant of the Lord sent me from Kadesh Barnea to explore the land. And I brought him back a report according to my convictions, but my fellow Israelites who went up with me made the hearts of the people melt in fear. I, however, followed the Lord my God wholeheartedly.” ~ Joshua 14:7-8, NIV

Wholehearted Faith

Caleb’s faith wasn’t mediocre; in his own words, he followed the Lord wholeheartedly. He stayed true to his convictions and remained loyal to the God who had delivered his people from Egypt, no matter what anyone else around him did or said.

And when the Israelites finally entered the Promised Land, God gave Caleb the choice land in the hill country he had fallen in love with so many years earlier.

Caleb’s story offers great hope, especially for those of us who have already passed the half-way point in life. Despite all the other passions and pursuits that vie for our attention—many of which are productive and even praiseworthy—his example shows us that it is entirely possible to remain completely faithful to God as we get older.

God has promised to go before us and be with us, never to leave us or forsake us. Because of that, we can follow Him wholeheartedly—even when giants threaten (as they will from time to time) and especially when few around us share that devotion.

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Is there a person in the Bible whose life and example give you hope in your current season? Please share in the comments.

♥ Lois

Caleb stayed true to his convictions and remained loyal to the God who had delivered his people from Egypt, no matter what anyone else around him did or said. Share on X Despite all the other passions and pursuits that vie for our attention, Caleb's example shows us that it is entirely possible to remain completely faithful to God as we get older. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Let’s Have Coffee and Grace & Truth.

September 2, 2025 16 comments
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The Truth that Sustained Me in My Darkest Hours

by Lois Flowers August 26, 2025
by Lois Flowers

Inside: Biblical principles that have guided my life through other difficult seasons held me up and held me fast, and they can do the same for you today. ~

I don’t understand, but I believe.

I remember thinking this frequently in the weeks following my bike accident last March. In those early days, my short-term memory wasn’t working properly. I was often confused about why I was in the hospital and why I couldn’t get myself up to go to the bathroom whenever I wanted to.

It all seemed so surreal to me. How could this have happened? I could have died, but I didn’t. Why not?

I still don’t have answers to those questions. But as what happened started to sink in, biblical truths that have guided my life for decades held me up and held me fast. I pray they do the same for you, whatever you may be facing today.

God Gets There First

“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you.” ~ Deuteronomy 31:8a, NIV

My accident occurred in a busy crosswalk near a church and down the road from an elementary school. One could make the case that I was at the wrong place at the wrong time. Somehow, though, remembering my favorite Bible verse gave me confidence that God got there first and was with me and my loved ones through it all.

God Walks with Us

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” ~ Psalm 23:4, ESV

I may not have been aware that we were in the valley of the shadow, but Randy was. He was asked to give permission for various life-saving procedures that, as it turned out, didn’t need to be done.

I don’t know why others often face different outcomes. I just know that God alone provides the comfort that frees us from fear.

God Numbers Our Days

“All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” ~ Psalm 139:16b, NIV

This verse sustained my faith as we waited to complete our adoptions and especially when I lost my parents in 2019. On March 25, though, it became much more personal.

The day of my accident was written in God’s book, but—happily—I have more days left. And so do you.

Will you join me in asking the Author of our days to help us make the most of each one of them?

• • •

My blogger friend Michele recently touched on a similar theme in a wonderful post titled Is Your Theology Able to Handle the Unexpected? 

“Let the memory of past deliverances teach you to hope against all hope in today’s uncertainty,” she writes, “knowing that with every unexpected bend in the road you are veering into the loving and wise sovereignty of God.”

How have you experienced this for yourself over the years? Please share in the comments.

♥ Lois

I don’t have answers to many of my questions, but in recent months, biblical truths that have guided my life for decades held me up and held me fast. Share on X Will you join me in asking the Author of our days to help us make the most of each one of them? Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Let’s Have Coffee and Grace & Truth.

August 26, 2025 14 comments
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Comforting Observations from an Unexpected Season

by Lois Flowers August 19, 2025
by Lois Flowers

Inside: I’m still healing and learning, but I’ve realized some things in the last few months that have encouraged my heart or altered my perspective. Perhaps they will do the same for you. ~

My nest is empty again, and it feels a bit different this time.

When my daughter Molly came home from college in early May, it seemed like I was spending most of my time on the couch or at physical therapy appointments. I’ve come a long way since then, and I’m so thankful.

Change is still change, though, and adding tasks and responsibilities back into my life that were fixtures before my accident requires emotional and physical energy. So does navigating good and normal life transitions, like daughters returning to school.

I’ve come to expect this, and that helps me move forward.

I’ve made a few other observations along the way that have either encouraged my heart or altered my perspective. Perhaps they’ll do the same for you, whether you’re dealing with a newly emptied nest, a lack of answers, a painful diagnosis, relational upheaval or some other challenge you may not have been anticipating.

For Example …

• We don’t have to know why something difficult happened or what the purpose is. But we can rest in knowing that God knows.

• Processing and healing take time. Sometimes, it’s OK to just be. To just make spaghetti sauce or water houseplants or take a shower.

• When we notice improvements, it helps to acknowledge them and thank God for them. One weird consequence of my accident was that my right eye stopped producing emotional tears. (I didn’t know these were a thing either.) A few days ago, however, I was listening to a new song that evoked some emotion in me. This time, a tear welled in my right eye and dripped all the way down my cheek. It wasn’t a torrent, but it was evidence of healing.

• What happens to us doesn’t just affect us. I don’t remember the most traumatic parts of what happened to me, but my loved ones do. I wish they didn’t have to deal with these memories; it makes me sad to even think about it. But God was with them through it all, just as He was with me. Somehow, He will use the experience in their lives, just as He will in mine. And I find comfort in that.

Finally …

I’ve also found a great deal of comfort in the Book of Psalms this summer, so I’ll close with a few passages that have been especially encouraging to me.

“If the Lord had not been my help, my soul would have lived in the land of silence. When I thought, ‘My foot slips,’ your steadfast love, O Lord, held me up. When the cares of my heart are many, your consolations cheer my soul.” ~ Psalm 94:17-19

“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” ~ Psalm 73:26

“I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears.” ~ Psalm 34:4

• • •

What helps you navigate change, either expected or unexpected? Please share in the comments.

♥ Lois

Processing and healing take time. Sometimes, it’s OK to just be. Share on X What happens to us doesn’t just affect us. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Let’s Have Coffee and Grace & Truth.

Photo by Luke Brugger on Unsplash.

August 19, 2025 25 comments
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Let Your Loved Ones Know You Care Today

by Lois Flowers August 12, 2025
by Lois Flowers

Inside: Sad news hammers home the importance of being generous with our words of affection. ~

When you come back from a blogging break, you can bring your readers up to speed on what you’ve been doing while you’ve been away.

Or you can start where you are right now.

I am planning to do the former soon. But the latter is on my heart today.

Sad News

Last week, Randy and I learned that our financial advisor had passed away unexpectedly. He leaves behind a wife and several young children. It was shocking news, sad on so many levels.

I can’t get past the suddenness. Maybe this is because of what happened to me earlier this year. In late March, I was out riding my bike when I was hit in a crosswalk by a car driver who ran a red light.

As I’ve shared before, I have no recollection of the accident, or of the next several days. I could have died, and I wouldn’t have known any different.

For the believer, to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord. Whatever that entails, that would have happened to me. I would have been OK.

Even So …

Thankful doesn’t begin to describe how I feel about being alive, surrounded and supported by the love of family and friends.

My body is healing and my life has slowly returned to some semblance of normal. But the new normal is a bit different.

When driving, for example, I wait a little longer when a red light turns green. Instead of just following the traffic signal, I look left and right to make double sure nobody is coming.

I’m not obsessive about defensive driving, but I am more defensive. I don’t want to get blindsided again.

It could happen, though. To any of us, at any time.

As a Result …

I have a heightened awareness of the importance of making sure the people in my life know that I love them. That I’m proud of them. That I’m thankful for them and pray for them.

I don’t know what this should look like in every case, but I want to be generous with my words of affection, gratitude and encouragement.

Different people have different needs. Words of affirmation aren’t as important to some. But even they need to know how we feel about them, regularly.

Our words of love, statements of affection and personalized bits of encouragement can’t eliminate problems, alleviate suffering or make grief disappear. But they do count for something.

Maybe more than we think.

• • •

Next week, I hope to share some thoughts about life away from blogging and what I’ve been learning in this unexpected season. In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you. Please share a summer highlight, or perhaps tell what being generous with your words means to you these days.

Whether you comment or not, I am grateful that you’re here.

♥ Lois

These days, I have a heightened awareness of the importance of making sure the people in my life know that I love them. That I’m proud of them. That I’m thankful for them and pray for them. Share on X Different people have different needs. Words of affirmation aren’t as important to some. But even they need to know how we feel about them, regularly. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Let’s Have Coffee and Grace & Truth.

August 12, 2025 20 comments
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‘Tis the Season for a Blogging Break

by Lois Flowers July 1, 2025
by Lois Flowers

Inside: As my healing continues, it seems like a good time to hit the pause button here. ~

I’m not sure how it’s already July, but here we are.

It’s summer according to the traditional calendar, but I haven’t quite settled on a name for the season I’m in.

Recovery mode applies. I’ve said it before but it bears repeating. I’m extremely grateful for the healing work God has done and continues to do in my mind and body. I’ve come a long way in the three months since my bike accident, that’s for sure.

Even so, I’m in the middle of a process that takes time. Slow and steady wins the race, as the saying goes.

Sometimes, though, I feel like I’m living in a waiting room. In certain areas, my progress feels like two steps forward and three steps back.

In the midst of all that, I’ve sensed the nudge to take a break from blogging. Just for a month or two, I think.

I have some projects I’d like to complete in July, as well as some words to write. Whether those words turn into blog posts remains to be seen.

Come what may, I’m trusting that God will fulfill His purposes for this season of my life. And I’m trusting that He will do the same for you.

♥ Lois

Come what may, I’m trusting that God will fulfill His purposes for this season of my life. And I’m trusting that He will do the same for you. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Let’s Have Coffee and Grace & Truth.

July 1, 2025 30 comments
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