Inside: When we believe we’re in charge, we often grasp our agendas, micromanage and fear the future. Thinking differently brings freedom and peace.~
“You’re responsible, but you’re not in control.”
I once heard a pastor say these words when introducing a series on the book of Daniel. At the time, I was helping my parents in a rapidly declining stage of their lives. And I can’t think of a better way to describe my role than that.
I was in charge of handling their affairs and keeping a close eye on their care. But when it came to the perplexing health problems they were both experiencing, there wasn’t a whole lot I could do.
I was responsible, but I wasn’t in control.
Many Applications
This doesn’t just pertain to assisting aging parents, of course. It applies to all of life—rearing children, taking care of our bodies, serving as citizens and employees, managing our households, nurturing relationships, doing ministry work and everything in between.
We’re responsible, but we’re not in control.
Here’s what often happens when we forget this truth. When we think we’re in control, we desire to have control or we fear losing control, we tend to micromanage. We roll out our own solutions without waiting for the right answer to present itself. We set our expectations on certain outcomes. We grasp tightly to our agendas and schedules. We fear the future and dread the unknown.
This is no way to operate, I can assure you. It’s stressful, anxiety inducing and frustrating, for us and the people around us.
On the Other Hand …
When we remember that we’re responsible but it’s God who is in control, we’re free to do what we need to do without agonizing over every little detail.
We engage the process. We advocate for our loved ones, young and old. We offer opinions and ask about possible solutions. We change our plans when something comes up. We pray for specific miracles (and sometimes ask others to join us).
Through it all—and especially when we have no idea what to do next—we pray for God’s will, not ours. We pray for wisdom.
And we pray that the sovereign Lord of the universe would direct our steps as only He can do, that He would strengthen our legs for the path that He has laid out for us, and that He would give us courage to walk on that path wherever it leads.
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♥ Lois
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