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    When the Scorned Becomes the Blessing

    by Lois Flowers March 22, 2016
    by Lois Flowers

    black-eyed susansMy love of gardening began germinating a couple of decades ago. We had moved into a new house with a great space for a flowerbed by the front door, so I ordered a bunch of perennials from a mail-order catalog to help fill it up.

    Plants were much cheaper back then, which is why I was able to purchase six black-eyed Susan plants for about $12. The heavy clay Arkansas soil must have agreed with them, because in a few years, they had expanded so much they practically took over the entire garden.

    That might not have been a bad thing had they been a different color, but I’m not overly fond of yellow-orange.

    Plus, someone I admired once referred to black-eyed Susans as a weed. And for some reason, I adopted her attitude instead of agreeing with the opinion of a different friend who considered black-eyed Susans to be her favorite flower.

    So I dug them all up and replanted the huge clumps on the bare west side of the house where they would get plenty of sun. Soon, they were so big that I’m pretty sure you could see them from space.

    Eventually, I got so sick of looking at them that I gave them all to another friend, who happily transplanted them in her own yard. And I vowed I would never have black-eyed Susans in my flowerbeds again.

    I kept my promise at our next new house, but when we moved to Kansas in 2006, the home we bought had some black-eyed Susans gracing its existing flower borders. I didn’t have the heart to get rid of them, and they were more contained in the slightly less hospitable Kansas climate, so I let them be.

    Several years later, we moved into our current home, a fixer-upper surrounded by expansive, mostly bare garden areas. Our first summer there was a scorcher. The backyard, which consisted of a large, neglected swimming pool and flagstone patio surrounded on three sides by a huge flower border, was a jungle of weeds and thorny hedge trees.

    It was too hot to do anything back there and even if it had been cooler, I had no energy for gardening during that exhausting season of my life. But despite my complete lack of attention, there were a few bright spots of color on the patio, including—you guessed it—a black-eyed Susan plant sprouting out of a drain hole near the pool.

    There it was—in a mass jungle of weeds, in the midst of the worst drought in decades— growing happily. And every time I saw it, it made me smile.

    The irony wasn’t lost on me. The scorned had become the blessing.

    A few summers later, I moved that plant to a more appropriate spot, only to find that the rabbits that frequented my now-thriving flowerbeds enjoyed eating it as much as I enjoyed looking at it. I tried all kinds of rabbit repellents, but nothing deterred these persistent creatures.

    Which is why, the following spring, I found myself cutting out a length of chicken wire to go around this vulnerable little black-eyed Susan clump. How could I not protect this thing that had brought me so much joy during such a parched season?

    The moral of the story is this: Sometimes, the things we turn our noses up during one season of life are the very things that bring us the most joy later.

    ♥ Lois

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  • How Brokenness Happens

    by Lois Flowers March 15, 2016
    by Lois Flowers March 15, 2016 16 comments

    A year or two ago, I heard a song on the radio a lot—a prayer for God to “make me broken.” I understand why such a plea is important, and I appreciate the sincerity with which it is offered. But while many people may find those words just right for them, …

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  • When God Initiates a Life Renovation Project

    by Lois Flowers March 8, 2016
    by Lois Flowers March 8, 2016 29 comments

    There’s an azalea bush on the side of my house, nestled under the canopy of a large Colorado blue spruce. I don’t know the history of this particular shrub, but I do know a thing or two about the landscape that surrounds it. Long-time neighbors say it used to be …

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  • Song of the Month: “God Evermore”

    by Lois Flowers March 6, 2016
    by Lois Flowers March 6, 2016 4 comments

    Yesterday, Randy and I stood in line for almost three hours, waiting with thousands of other voters to cast our ballots in the Kansas Presidential Caucus. Today, the Song of the Month for March serves as a comforting reminder that no matter who wins–in the primaries or in November–it is God who …

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  • One Way to Encourage a Hurting Friend

    by Lois Flowers March 1, 2016
    by Lois Flowers March 1, 2016 30 comments

    I read a lot of lighthearted fiction, mostly on the treadmill. But from time to time, the pile of half-read books on my nightstand includes memoirs dealing with death and grief. Randy doesn’t understand why I’m drawn to such heavy topics. He’d much rather read real-life adventure sagas starring Navy Seals, …

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  • The Road to Real is Paved with Brokenness

    by Lois Flowers February 23, 2016
    by Lois Flowers February 23, 2016 49 comments

    In the 17 months since I started blogging, I’ve read a lot about writing, the writing life and how to succeed as a writer in our electronic age. I’ve come across a few things I’m doing right, as well as plenty that I could do better or differently. As I …

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