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How to Calm the Anxious What-ifs

by Lois Flowers January 19, 2021
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The what-ifs have loomed large and scary for a long while, haven’t they?

I wrote about this several months ago, about how 2020 was the year when I finally decided to get serious about trying to let tomorrow worry about itself. (Better late than never, right? See here and here for more on that story.)

I’m still serious about it, but I don’t want to sugarcoat my efforts. It’s often a tough mental battle, one that wears me out and keeps me up at night.

There’s so much to be concerned about these days, isn’t there? What tops my list might not even be on yours, but I think we can all agree that we are living in anxious times, and that it’s very easy to let our imaginations and fears about what might happen in the short- or long-term future get the best of us.

Here’s a quick example. Let’s say I have a slight headache some evening. I could just go to bed and hope it’s gone in the morning. Or I could start fretting. What if it’s Covid? What if we all have to quarantine? What if we run out of food or (worse yet) toilet paper or essential medications? What if one of us has to be hospitalized?

What if …

What if …

WHAT IF …

I can’t think of anything less productive than this little exercise, but once the ball starts rolling, it’s hard to stop it. I’ve been there a time or seven in recent weeks and months; perhaps you have too.

There’s another kind of what-if, though, one that Pastor Colin Smith calls the “what-ifs of faith.” A good example is found in Psalm 124:1: “What if the Lord had not been on our side? Answer, O Israel!” (Good News Translation)

Do you see it there? What if the Lord had not been on our side?

The point, of course, is that if we have accepted God’s gift of salvation and been adopted into His eternal family, God is on our side. Psalm 118:6 affirms this truth:

“The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?” (ESV)

Everything would look very different if God were not on our side, wouldn’t it? Not that everything would turn out how we want, every time or even some of the time. But if we think our situations or circumstances are difficult now, imagine what would they be like without His comfort, His direction, His grace, His peace?

Many of us have plenty to be concerned about right now—there’s no getting around that. But if you find yourself craving an antidote for the anxious what-ifs, I’d encourage you to try something that has really helped me lately.

The next time you find yourself getting caught up in an escalating cycle of what-ifs, stop and ask yourself this simple question:

“What if God were not on my side?”

It probably won’t alter your situation, but there’s a very good chance that those eight words will calm your heart and reorient your perspective, right then and there. In these uncertain times, that can make all the difference in the world.

♥ Lois

Everything would look very different if God were not on our side, wouldn’t it? Share on X If we think our situations or circumstances are difficult now, imagine what would they be like without God's comfort, His direction, His grace, His peace? Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Recharge Wednesday, Let’s Have Coffee, Inspire Me Monday, #HeartEncouragement and Grace & Truth.

January 19, 2021 26 comments
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Blog “Identity Crisis” Prompts Deeper Questions

by Lois Flowers January 12, 2021
by Lois Flowers

The week I turned 50, my blog had an identity crisis. I’ll spare you the techie details; let’s just say that, between the original problem and the mistakes I made trying to fix it, I wasted a great deal of time I could have spent doing any number of more productive things.

I’m not telling you this to drag you down into the weeds of blogging with me, but rather, to share that this identity crisis with my blog sort of triggered—or maybe just exacerbated—a bit of an identity crisis in my own heart.

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January 12, 2021 36 comments
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New Year, New Name, New Word

by Lois Flowers January 5, 2021
by Lois Flowers

Last August, shortly after we took Lilly to college for the first time and began adjusting to life with a slightly emptier nest, my blog started acting up.

It wasn’t a huge deal in the grand scheme of life. People who left comments couldn’t see them unless they were using a mobile device.

But since I value communication with any reader who takes the time to leave a thought or two, it was frustrating.

The problem, it turns out, was somewhere in the coding of the blog’s theme (all the files and templates that make up the site’s appearance and function). And since the theme designer apparently is no longer in business, I had two choices: hire a contractor to fix the code or give the blog a (long overdue) makeover with a completely new theme.

I chose the second option and eventually found a design that met all my criteria—clean, simple and up-to-date, with a working comments section. Along with the fresh look (that purposefully resembles the old one quite a bit), I decided a new name also was in order.

As I wrote last week, I loved the blog’s original title (“Waxing Gibbous: Reflections on Life and Faith by Lois Flowers”) and all that it meant to me when I started blogging six years ago. Over the years, though, I’ve gotten a clearer sense of who I’m writing to and why, and I’ve often thought about changing the name to reflect that.

I brainstormed a bit and solicited feedback from some thoughtful friends and family members. Eventually, I settled upon the first phrase I thought of when I began this process: Strength for Today • Hope for Tomorrow.

These six words, which you may recognize as a slightly altered line from one of the great hymns of the faith, represent my ultimate goal for every story and bit of insight I share here, week after week.

I welcome readers from every season and age category, but my heart—even when I was much younger—has always been drawn to people in the middle and later years of life. My own journey these last several years—including the profound experience of watching my parents decline and enter eternity within five weeks of each other—has only deepened this passion.

Here’s what I believe: As long as we’re here on planet Earth, God has work for us to do. We’re still useful to Him, no matter how old we are, what we feel on any given day or what we imagine anyone else thinks about us and our ability to contribute to society.

It can be a struggle, though—perhaps even a battle—to believe this and live like it. It requires divine strength and eternal hope. And so I write, one pilgrim to another, in an effort to encourage us both as we navigate the long walk home together.

Which brings me to my word of the year for 2021. I was driving to the grocery store in early October when it quietly slipped into my head.

Strength.

I knew it instantly. That’s it, that’s my new word, I thought.

Honestly, though, I wasn’t sure how I felt about it at first.

Why is strength my word? I wondered. Is something terrible going to happen in 2021 that will require me to be strong? 

That’s not necessarily an unreasonable question. But since one of my current spiritual goals is learning to let tomorrow worry about itself, I decided to stop that train of thought right in its tracks.

Now, all these weeks later, I’m more curious than anything about how God is going to use this rich, multi-faceted word in my life in this new year.

The scriptures tell us that God is our strength and our shield, our strength and our song, our refuge and our strength. They assure us that He is the “strength of [our] heart, [our] portion forever.” (Psalm 28:7, Exodus 15:2, Psalm 46:1, Psalm 73:26)

As if that were not enough, God actually gives us strength—or, as Psalm 18:32 so beautifully puts it, He “clothes” us with strength. Proverbs 31 alludes to this when describing the woman who fears God: “Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.” (vs. 26, ESV)

There’s so much more, some of which I plan to write about in the coming months. For now, I’ll simply say that when I look ahead to the great unknown that is 2021, these biblical truths about strength fill me with hope, not dread or anxiety.

As 2 Thessalonians 3:3 reminds us, “The Lord is faithful; He will strengthen and guard [us] from the evil one.”

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Have you chosen a word to guide you through 2021? If so, please share it in the comments. And a very Happy New Year to you all!

♥ Lois

As long as we’re here, God has work for us to do. We’re still useful to Him, no matter how old we are, what we feel on any given day or what we imagine anyone else thinks about our ability to contribute to society. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Recharge Wednesday, Let’s Have Coffee, Inspire Me Monday, #HeartEncouragement and Grace & Truth.

January 5, 2021 36 comments
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Share Four Somethings: December 2020

by Lois Flowers December 29, 2020
by Lois Flowers

During the second half of 2020, participating in Heather Gerwing’s monthly Share Four Somethings linkup became one of my favorite blogging rhythms.

If you’re a blogger looking for something a little different in 2021, I’d encourage you to check it out. And if you’re not a blogger, the practice of jotting down something loved, something read, something treasured and something ahead as each month draws to a close might be a helpful habit to implement in the coming year.

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December 29, 2020 22 comments
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Held in God’s Hand (and Top Post of 2020)

by Lois Flowers December 15, 2020
by Lois Flowers

It may not be what most people ponder during a workout, but when I’m running down the trail near my house, the familiar Irish travel blessing sometimes comes to mind.

May the road rise up to meet you.

May the wind always be at your back.

May the sun shine warm upon your face,

and rains fall soft upon your fields.

And until we meet again,

May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

For some reason, these words usually enter my thoughts when the wind is not at my back—when it feels like I am running directly into gale-force gusts.

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December 15, 2020 28 comments
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Encouragement Just for Today

by Lois Flowers December 8, 2020
by Lois Flowers

In the days before we took our older daughter to college for the first time, we watched the entire Lord of the Rings trilogy as a family.

I’ve seen these movies several times. Various parts have touched my heart profoundly during different seasons of my life. If we were discussing films over coffee, I’d elaborate on all that. For now, though, I want to focus on my current favorite line from what is now my favorite movie of the three.

(If you’re not a LOTR fan, hang tight. There’s a universal application coming that I think you will appreciate, even if you have no interest in wizards, dwarves, elves and hobbits.)

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December 8, 2020 32 comments
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