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When God says, “Leave Everything to Me”

by Lois Flowers July 17, 2018
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A few months ago, my laptop was updating and taking its own sweet time about it. I don’t normally pay much attention to these regular Microsoft installations, but I happened to be looking at the screen when the following message popped up: “Leave everything to us. Don’t turn off your PC.”

By this time, I was starting to wonder why the update was dragging on so long, so my first thought when I saw the message was, “Uh, that’s not very reassuring at all.” (Then I took a picture, because I somehow had a feeling this wasn’t going to go exactly according to plan.)

Turns out, my hunch was correct. When the update finished, the entire desktop was gone and the laptop was stuck in some kind of Groundhog-Day cycle that brought up the same troubleshooting screen no matter what option we selected.

Naturally, this is not what I expect when Microsoft tells me it’s installing updates that will make my computer run more smoothly. The company said it would take care of everything; instead, a documented problem with the update caused a massive headache at my house for a few days.

Randy finally spoke to a Microsoft technician who was familiar with the issue. But his only solution—to start from scratch and reinstall Windows—would have caused us to lose everything we’d saved since our last backup in January.

We obviously didn’t like that option, so my resourceful husband dredged up his high school computer knowledge and used DOS commands to save all the files from the laptop onto a handful of thumb drives.

Bullet dodged, problem solved, lesson learned. (We’re backing up more frequently from now on, for sure.)

Weeks later, I’m still amused by the irony of the mid-update message from Microsoft. Oddly enough, it also reminds me of promises in the Bible that encourage us to rely on God instead of ourselves.

• “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

• “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will act.” (Psalm 37:5)

• “Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)

• “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you.” (Psalm 55:22a)

God’s promises are sort of similar to Microsoft’s, but there’s one big difference. When one of the world’s most trusted names in technology says “Leave everything to us” in the middle of an update, I have every reason to expect that my computer will work when the installation is complete.

That doesn’t always happen, of course. Microsoft is a powerful corporation, but it’s made up of finite, fallible human beings. The company sometimes makes mistakes that it’s unable to fix.

God, on the other hand, is all-powerful, perfect and infinitely trustworthy. But when He says, “Leave everything to me,” He gives us no guarantee that we’ll get the result we want. While it’s true that He often answers our prayers in amazing, remarkable ways, we’re not buying a specific, certain outcome from Him when we choose to trust Him.

Situations don’t always turn out like we hope, or wish, or might even reasonably expect. Sometimes news is bad, the answer is no, or approval is withheld. Sometimes hearts don’t change, the way gets longer, the pain gets worse.

Things can get especially sticky when we are working through situations and problems that are at least partly out of our control. It’s stressful when we lack all the information. It’s frustrating when we have to rely on other people who may not have our best interests at heart, people who do things differently than we do, or even those who may not know what they are doing at all.

I’ve found myself here lately, with issues more serious than a malfunctioning laptop. Maybe you have too.

Randy was able to fix our computer without any help from Microsoft. But life doesn’t always imitate technology, does it? It’s hard to know when to act and when to wait. It can be tough to see that line between trusting God and taking things into our own hands.

Worry hovers, anxiety threatens, irritability rises.

In such cases, trusting Him is our only viable choice, one that must be made daily, hourly—perhaps even moment by moment. In the middle of a phone call or in the middle of the night. When work piles up around us or all we have left to do is wait.

So we pray—for wisdom, for patience, for discernment to see what’s really in front of us.

“Lord, be gracious to us! We wait for You. Be our strength every morning, and our salvation in time of trouble.” (Isaiah 33:2)

And we actively, intentionally and perhaps even verbally decide again to trust Him—not to perform a certain way or work everything out exactly how we prefer, but to be our strength and our salvation, our help and our refuge, our advocate and our hope.

When God says, “Leave everything to me,” and we choose to obey—over and over again, confidently or with fear and trepidation—the promised result is far more precious than any desired outcome.

“You will keep in perfect peace the mind that is dependent on You, for it is trusting in You.” (Isaiah 26:3)

♥ Lois

God often answers our prayers in amazing, remarkable ways, but we’re not buying a specific, certain outcome from Him when we choose to trust Him. Share on X When God says, “Leave everything to me,” and we choose to obey, the promised result is far more precious than any desired outcome. Share on X

 

July 17, 2018 14 comments
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4 Simple Expressions of Encouragement

by Lois Flowers June 26, 2018
by Lois Flowers

I heard a sermon about encouragement a few weeks ago.

It covered a single passage of scripture, so the application was limited to what the speaker found in those few verses. As I listened, however, it occurred to me that encouragement is not always a one-size-fits-most endeavor.

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June 26, 2018 20 comments
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What I’m Loving This Summer

by Lois Flowers June 19, 2018
by Lois Flowers

I sort of missed the deadline for the “what I learned this spring” post—or maybe the fast and furious onset of summer’s heat and humidity just catapulted me right past the desire to write one.

Perhaps what I need to do is keep track as I go along these next few months, so when the times comes for the next post of seasonal learnings, I’ll be ready. In the meantime, here are a few things that I’m loving right now.

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June 19, 2018 22 comments
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A Hope-Filled Note for Moms of Girls

by Lois Flowers June 12, 2018
by Lois Flowers

I don’t know where you are in the life cycle of raising daughters.

Maybe your little ones are running circles around the backyard as you lounge on the deck trying to read this. You might be sitting on hard bleachers at a soccer game as your 10-year-old chases a ball across a field, or perhaps you’re waiting in a dance-bag strewn lobby for your 7-year-old to finish her weekly ballet class.

It could be that you’re trying to figure out how to keep your pre-teen occupied all summer, or you’re pondering the logistics of adding another vehicle so your newly minted driver can get herself to her first summer job each day.

Or perhaps your girl is anticipating college, about to enter the workforce or struggling to understand her own teenage daughter.

Wherever You Are

I have some words for you today. I don’t know that I’d call them words of advice, necessarily. I’m certainly not going to assume every sentence will apply directly to you. I do hope, though, that what you read will help you see God’s hand on your girl’s life—and on your own.

There have been times, in my own tenure as a mom, when I dreaded what was coming in my daughters’ lives because of how that that particular season or event went in my own life. Puberty. Middle school. That first real breakup. Learning to drive. Starting a new grade (or a new school, or a new anything, really).

You get the idea.

I know they have to go through this, I would think, but I don’t want it to be as hard for them as it was for me.

Who Can Tell?

There’s no way of knowing, of course, what’s going to be difficult for our girls. We might be able to make some fairly accurate predictions based on their own personalities and past experiences, but there’s always a chance they might surprise us. With their skills, their resilience, their courage, their strength and their maturity levels.

When your hunches come true, though, and you see your girl struggling in ways that you know all too well, I want you to remember this.

Because of what you experienced as a girl or young woman—the choices you made, the emotions you felt, the rejection you experienced—you will be able to help her.

You Went First

The struggles you faced were not for nothing. Even if you didn’t think so at the time—even if you strain to see it now—God used them to plant seeds of empathy, wisdom, faith and perhaps even boldness in you, and you can use that fruit to help your girl.

No, your daughter won’t always want your help. Maybe even more often, you will have no idea how to help—what to do or what to say.

In the moment, though, God will give you the words. Many of those words will come in prayer—just between you and Him—and always, those words will be the most fruitful, the most powerful, the most life-changing.

You Can Do It

I know you may not always feel equipped or adequate, but this job of parenting? You can do it, Mom.

You are right mother for your girl, no matter what you think. No matter what she may say in the heat of the moment, when she’s trying for all she’s worth to push every last one of your buttons.

She may not realize it now, but you’re the mom she needs because you are the mom God gave her.

She may not realize this until you are old and gray and possibly in a nursing home, and even then she still might not get it. But that doesn’t let you off the hook. You’re not in this for what she gives to you. You’re in it because God gave her to you.

Work in Progress

Your girl is a work in progress, just like you. God will allow challenging people, circumstances and events into her life that will mold her character and shape her faith, just as He does in your life.

It’s a lifelong process, being her mother.

So keep loving her. Keep listening to her. Keep praying for her. Keep believing in her.

Take it from a mom who is also a daughter. This is what our girls need most—during every season of their lives.

♥ Lois

I know you may not always feel equipped or adequate, but this job of parenting? You can do it, Mom. Share on X Mom, you’re not in this for what your daughter gives to you. You’re in it because God gave her to you. Share on X

P.S. I’m linking up this week with Let’s Have Coffee, Purposeful Faith, #TellHisStory (with new host Mary Geisen), Faith on Fire, Faith ‘n Friends and Grace & Truth.

June 12, 2018 33 comments
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A Prayer for a New Season

by Lois Flowers June 5, 2018
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Dear Lord,

As we take our first steps into this new summer season, I thank you for the year just past—for 12 months chock full of opportunities to trust you. Day after day, you showed yourself faithful—in more ways than I can list here, in more ways than I even realize.

It shouldn’t surprise me that you did this—faithful is what you are, and you cannot contradict yourself, no matter how faithless I am. And yet here I am, once again in awe of who you are and how you operate.

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June 5, 2018 16 comments
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Welcome to the Sandwich Generation (A Guest Post)

by Lois Flowers May 28, 2018
by Lois Flowers

A couple of decades ago, when I was a young newspaper reporter in Bentonville, Ark., the features editor at the next desk wrote an article about the Sandwich Generation.

This label, I learned, refers to middle-aged people who are juggling the responsibilities of caring for their growing children while also supporting their aging parents. In my early 20s and newly married, I could hardly comprehend the notion that I might be a part of this demographic some day.

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May 28, 2018 8 comments
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As long as we’re here on planet Earth, God has a good purpose for us. This is true no matter how old we are, what we feel on any given day or what we imagine anyone else thinks about us. It can be a struggle, though, to believe this and live like it. It requires divine strength and eternal hope. And so I write, one pilgrim to another, in an effort to encourage us both as we navigate the long walk home together.

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