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    How to Calm the Anxious What-ifs

    by Lois Flowers January 19, 2021
    by Lois Flowers

    The what-ifs have loomed large and scary for a long while, haven’t they?

    I wrote about this several months ago, about how 2020 was the year when I finally decided to get serious about trying to let tomorrow worry about itself. (Better late than never, right? See here and here for more on that story.)

    I’m still serious about it, but I don’t want to sugarcoat my efforts. It’s often a tough mental battle, one that wears me out and keeps me up at night.

    There’s so much to be concerned about these days, isn’t there? What tops my list might not even be on yours, but I think we can all agree that we are living in anxious times, and that it’s very easy to let our imaginations and fears about what might happen in the short- or long-term future get the best of us.

    Here’s a quick example. Let’s say I have a slight headache some evening. I could just go to bed and hope it’s gone in the morning. Or I could start fretting. What if it’s Covid? What if we all have to quarantine? What if we run out of food or (worse yet) toilet paper or essential medications? What if one of us has to be hospitalized?

    What if …

    What if …

    WHAT IF …

    I can’t think of anything less productive than this little exercise, but once the ball starts rolling, it’s hard to stop it. I’ve been there a time or seven in recent weeks and months; perhaps you have too.

    There’s another kind of what-if, though, one that Pastor Colin Smith calls the “what-ifs of faith.” A good example is found in Psalm 124:1: “What if the Lord had not been on our side? Answer, O Israel!” (Good News Translation)

    Do you see it there? What if the Lord had not been on our side?

    The point, of course, is that if we have accepted God’s gift of salvation and been adopted into His eternal family, God is on our side. Psalm 118:6 affirms this truth:

    “The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?” (ESV)

    Everything would look very different if God were not on our side, wouldn’t it? Not that everything would turn out how we want, every time or even some of the time. But if we think our situations or circumstances are difficult now, imagine what would they be like without His comfort, His direction, His grace, His peace?

    Many of us have plenty to be concerned about right now—there’s no getting around that. But if you find yourself craving an antidote for the anxious what-ifs, I’d encourage you to try something that has really helped me lately.

    The next time you find yourself getting caught up in an escalating cycle of what-ifs, stop and ask yourself this simple question:

    “What if God were not on my side?”

    It probably won’t alter your situation, but there’s a very good chance that those eight words will calm your heart and reorient your perspective, right then and there. In these uncertain times, that can make all the difference in the world.

    ♥ Lois

    Everything would look very different if God were not on our side, wouldn’t it? Share on X If we think our situations or circumstances are difficult now, imagine what would they be like without God's comfort, His direction, His grace, His peace? Share on X

    P.S. I’m linking up this week with #tellhisstory, InstaEncouragements, Recharge Wednesday, Let’s Have Coffee, Inspire Me Monday, #HeartEncouragement and Grace & Truth.

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  • Blog “Identity Crisis” Prompts Deeper Questions

    by Lois Flowers January 12, 2021
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    The week I turned 50, my blog had an identity crisis. I’ll spare you the techie details; let’s just say that, between the original problem and the mistakes I made trying to fix it, I wasted a great deal of time I could have spent doing any number of more …

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  • New Year, New Name, New Word

    by Lois Flowers January 5, 2021
    by Lois Flowers January 5, 2021 36 comments

    Last August, shortly after we took Lilly to college for the first time and began adjusting to life with a slightly emptier nest, my blog started acting up. It wasn’t a huge deal in the grand scheme of life. People who left comments couldn’t see them unless they were using …

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  • Share Four Somethings: December 2020

    by Lois Flowers December 29, 2020
    by Lois Flowers December 29, 2020 22 comments

    During the second half of 2020, participating in Heather Gerwing’s monthly Share Four Somethings linkup became one of my favorite blogging rhythms. If you’re a blogger looking for something a little different in 2021, I’d encourage you to check it out. And if you’re not a blogger, the practice of …

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  • Held in God’s Hand (and Top Post of 2020)

    by Lois Flowers December 15, 2020
    by Lois Flowers December 15, 2020 28 comments

    It may not be what most people ponder during a workout, but when I’m running down the trail near my house, the familiar Irish travel blessing sometimes comes to mind. May the road rise up to meet you. May the wind always be at your back. May the sun shine …

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  • Encouragement Just for Today

    by Lois Flowers December 8, 2020
    by Lois Flowers December 8, 2020 32 comments

    In the days before we took our older daughter to college for the first time, we watched the entire Lord of the Rings trilogy as a family. I’ve seen these movies several times. Various parts have touched my heart profoundly during different seasons of my life. If we were discussing …

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